It’s Okay to Have High Standards (And There’s Nothing Romantic About Going Dutch)

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It’s Okay to Have High Standards (And There’s Nothing Romantic About Going Dutch)

high_standardsI just returned from a date and am on a rampage.

Dating, for me, provides lots of really good lessons about standards and about the importance of never lowering the bar.

I feel it’s important to have high standards in all areas of your life… otherwise you’ll just end up settling for less than what you really want and/or deserve. Tonight was a good reminder about the importance of having high standards.

I went on a first date tonight. That’s usually the only kind of date I ever go on because one date is usually enough for me to realize that if I was to go on another one, I would be lowering the bar in some way. And personally, I refuse to lower the bar at this point in my life (when it comes to dating or any other area of my life).

Here’s the deal. I’m a 43-year-old single mother of 2 small children (ages 6 and 3). It’s going on 4 years since their father and I split up… and I haven’t moved into another relationship yet because I absolutely refuse to settle when it comes to myself and my kids. I’m certainly not interested in being in a relationship just for the sake of being in one… and I only want to demonstrate the very best for my kids which means I refuse to lower the bar in any way and always maintain high standards.

There are certain things when it comes to dating that are absolute deal breakers, and the list gets more and more defined as time moves on. Tonight I realized another thing to add to the dealbreaker list (as I talked about in this video).

Having high standards is important in all areas of life… and it’s particularly important when it comes to having a business and being an entrepreneur.

Over the last 9 years that I’ve been in the network marketing industry, my standards have changed quite a bit.

When I first started out, I was willing to work with anyone that was vertical and breathing that had a credit card and was ready to get started. Over the years I’ve gotten much more particular about who I’m willing to work with and I’ve continuously raised my standards.

As a single mother, my time is very limited (and extremely valuable to me). My goal is to help as many people as possible be successful beyond their wildest dreams.

However, over the years I started to get really tired of wasting my time with people who were curious about being successful and building a home-based business, but weren’t serious about it.


So my standards have gradually changed, and I’ve continued to raise the bar… in my business and all areas of my life.

These days,  if you want to join me in my business, you have to have a strong ‘Why’ and prove that you’re committed to succeeding because I refuse to waste my time with people that are ‘trying it out’.

I’ve also raised my standards when it comes to the type of companies that I’m willing to do business with. I have solid criteria (and very high standards) when it comes to this (you can learn more about that here).

And, of course when it comes to who I want to spend my life with and bring into our lives as a role model for my kids, my standards are extremely high.

You may think I’m picky or that my expectations are too high or whatever… but really what it comes down to is that I refuse to settle in any way, shape, or form at this point in my life.

And when it comes to doing business, I’m looking for the people who are also not willing to settle and that are willing to do whatever it takes to succeed (not the ones that do 2 hours of work per day for 2 weeks and quit because they haven’t gotten the results they’re looking for yet).

Okay, so that’s my rant for tonight… and of course I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on all of this…

How high are your standards? Are you lowering the bar in any areas of your life?

Please leave your comments, questions,and feedback about having high standards (or anything else for that matter) below…

Expect Abundance,

Amy Starr Allen

p.s. If you’re serious about succeeding and are willing to do what it takes, you won’t try to do it without this amazing system.




  1. Amy,
    I love your rant! I am too single and it sucks when men are cheap. Take us to place not so expensive if they don’t want to pay as much. I know we are intelligent women and we don’t have to put up with that crap. I know I have high standards with my business and I do expect that to spill over in my dating scene. I don’t expect people to take care of me but I do expect to be romanced in the beginning. You go after what you deserve to have!

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      Glad you can relate, Debbie. 🙂 And, yes, I decided I want to be spoiled for a change. I won’t settle for less! 🙂 xo

  2. I totally agree, Amy! Wow! Thank you for putting this so “straight-forward”!! And thank you for being such an amazing role model in this industry! You are AWESOME and I absolutely love you standards!!

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      Thanks, J Leigh. And you’re welcome… you’re awesome, too. Love you! 🙂 xo

  3. Keeping your standards high is a sign of a healthy mind and spirit. It keeps your life healthy and in a forward direction. I like to see that in a woman because you become a great role model for other women which is very important in our culture! Glad you shared a post about it! 🙂 xoxo Rosie

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      Thanks, Rosie… and, yes, I know that many people (and women in particular) tend to lower the bar all over the place in their lives and settle, thus never having the quality of life that really want, and deserve. This is importnat stuff… 🙂 xo

  4. I just watched the video and had to leave another comment! You are so adorable!! I totally loved your rant! It’s perfect and makes me smile! You are so deserving of the best of the best!! xoxoxoxox Love you bunches, Amy! xoxo 🙂 Rosie

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    Awwww… thanks so much, Rosie. I was on a rampage last night… wasn’t sure if I should go public with it, but I’m glad I did. Love you, too! 🙂 xo

  6. Great video. I can’t wait to see the new prospective date landing page! (I think you may be onto something…) 😉

  7. Amy,
    bravo for this rant and your clear positioning, I can relate, as I see at 55 years old, married and working for helping my husband to retire , that the standard which one accepts in his life on all levels is conditioning his success of failure.
    I think that this process is even sharpened with years.
    The more I surround myself with a high standard environment, the more my business grows, and when it happens that I go “down” to a lower level quality of surroundings, my business goes down too….. We have still lots to learn, being in the business of building people up.
    Discernment is crucial when it comes to select the ones that we can help…..
    Thank you Amy!

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      Thanks, Brigitte. Glad you can relate. And, yes, I think this is a crucial point that too many people overlook. I’m done settling… sounds like you are, too. Good for you! 🙂 xo

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